LESSON 1 - how to understand your mind
Lesson 1 - mind perceptions (thinking patterns, positive and negative thinking, attraction, our mind cannot process the “no”)
FRAMEs OF MIND
Of all the subjects ever explored and all the machines ever studied, the human brain remains the one with the most complexity. Our brain performs many functions, some that are automatic and others that are more engaged - they are all different, but all necessary for a healthy human life. For a better understanding, find below the three main ways our minds work:
Engaged mind: when you are totally immersed in a moment, fully present in a conversation, or deeply connected to what’s happening here and now.
Automatic mind: we can become aware of different sensations and changes in the environment (example: new sounds or temperature changes), we effortlessly make evaluations and judge things, we categorize experiences and form habits to automate major parts of our lives.
Analytic mind: as self-aware beings, we have the ability to intentionally step back from our current thoughts, feelings and experiences to be the observer, manipulate information in our mind and solve problems.
Some processes in automatic mind and analytic mind are very similar, the difference is that in analytic mind you intentionally choose to use your abilities. The non-stop flow of information in automatic mind is part of being human, and we all spend a large percentage of our lives swimming in this stream. On the other hand, developing our engaged mind has been essential, and you may have heard it as mindfulness.
Why are we talking about the three main frames of the mind? Well, understanding the different functions your mind has will develop a better understanding of what Frame you’d want to be in at any given time. For example, if you’re going to spend time with your family/friends an engaged mind will allow you to connect better with them, but if you’re going for a job interview or need to reflect on an experience, you might want to use your analytic mind.
A thinking pattern is a person’s usual way of thinking - it can be negative or positive, and they can be formed consciously or unconsciously. Most thinking patterns develop over a period of time and are often a result of personal experiences ranging from childhood to a person’s present experiences, and negative and positive patterns can exist at the same time in a person’s mind.
Habitual thoughts affect your mood, relationships and experiences. When the negative patterns prevail, it can have a very damaging effect on a person, including his self-esteem and quality of life, while positive thought patterns lead people toward greater health (physical and mental) and better overall life experiences. When a person realizes a habit of negative thoughts patterns, he/she may want to adjust these patterns in an effort to achieve a better quality of life - but how can you actually do that?
Recognize the problem. Everybody’s view of the world is different and it all comes down to the thinking patterns you use in your daily life - if you think life is good you will notice the good things in your life, if you think life is shit you will find shit things about life. Make a conscious effort to change what you believe about yourself, your life and the world, and it will literally change your life! Find your destructive thinking patterns and change your perception of life.
Be aware of when you are using the destructive thinking pattern. You can employ different thinking patterns depending on what you are doing. For example you could use a positive thinking pattern at work but use a destructive one when it comes to looking for love (or even looking at yourself). Recognizing when you use destructive thinking patterns will help you to change that pattern.
Replace the bad with the good. This is something that is not automatic! You have to let the old pattern go while introducing a new one. You have to replace the negative thought with a positive one, and you have to keep doing it, because it might not immediately help your situation but it will slowly begin to change your patterns. It takes time, and energy.
This stage takes place over time and is not done immediately. The best time to change a destructive thinking pattern is to let it run it’s course and slowly replace it with a thinking pattern that is better for you. I know people want a microwave life, stick it in the micro and it’s ready in 3 minutes, your life is not like that and you cannot change in 1 day, unless something drastic happens.
You can work on more than 1 destructive thinking pattern at a time.
To change your thinking pattern you have to
Slowly change and introduce a new thinking pattern
Keep working on all your destructive thinking patterns
Change your life with your new way of thinking
Recognising and changing your way of thinking can be a long process depending on what patterns of thinking you employ and how badly you want to change. People can change, do change and change for the rest of their lives, I know I have, so don’t be thinking you’ll never be able to change, you can and you will if you really want to.
After a few months you will see a huge difference in your life and you will want to use your new way of thinking to good effect. You will start to notice new types of people enter into your life who can help you reach the goals you have in life and in turn you will help them reach their goals, don’t worry about how just now.
Take time to think about your goals and take the time often to do this. I take time every day to think about where I want to be in life and slowly but surely it happens. Personally I find it better in the morning to really think about my goals and then again at night just before I am falling asleep. It works for me but you will have to experiment a little to find your way of thinking about your goals.